The first and most important thing, which, if the answer to is “no,” the rest of this is null and void: do you love this person? This does not mean: lust, attraction, rebound, love for the sake of being in love, love based around the physical and exterior, etc. Even if you think you love someone, ask yourself why you love them. That’s the key. Your motives for being with someone can help you identify the kind of love you have for them.
If you are in a serious relationship with someone, let’s say serious enough that you have a child with them, you have to consider your life without them, and what that will look like. Not the romanticized version where you’re free to find new love and all things are jolly and wonderful. The version where this person is dating other people, where someone else may be parenting…
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